My Year in Review and 3 Things I Learned in 2014

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I have never seen a year pass as quickly as 2014 has. It seems as though a whirlwind blew through and landed me at the doorstep of 2015. I honestly don’t know where the time went.

I will admit I haven’t been as busy as I could have been and many things just fell by the wayside, but some things did occur.

I left an organization and a job I have worked for sixteen years and started all over again in the workforce. I was now with a new organization, with new people, and had a new learning curve. Sure the skills I have acquired over the years have been of great assistance making my transition not so rough, but a new job is still something to get used to.

I got my very first article printed in a national online lifestyle publication for Black women. I shocked myself in being able to not only pitch, but land a spot on their front page; which leads me to the three things I learned in 2014.

1)    Unfollowing folk on Facebook is so damn therapeutic. I spent far too much time on Facebook. In doing so I would see a lot of things that made my day go not so well. It seemed it was also a way for me to introduce doubt into my mind.  I would spend so much time watching people that I idolized in my genre and in the blogosphere that I couldn’t write.  I worried if I was as good as someone else. I complained and almost convinced myself that I didn’t have the ability they did and I began to doubt I could be the writer and speaker I knew I could be.  Comparison can be the death of your dreams if you let it.  

Facebook_UnfollowWeb Designer and owner of Cheers Creative turned good friend, Dana James Mwangi told me to unfollow everyone, even her.  Not to be confused with unfriending, I clicked and unfollowed everyone and everything that didn’t encourage me or push me to be better at my craft.

The only things that pop up on my timeline now are things and people that are either informative or inspiring. One such person is Paul Carrick Brunson. He keeps me thinking, evaluating and uplifted. He has no idea that he is my brother and one of my mentors in my head.

2)    Not letting people pull on my energy with their negativity. In 2014 I spent a lot of time letting certain people “yank my chain.” I knew better, but would let these people anger me and take me to an unhealthy energy level. It wasn’t until late in the year that I began to do some things to take back my control.  Returning to daily meditation helped tremendously.  Something else I did was to remember that the actions of others had nothing to do with me, and was more so about the unhappiness in their own lives. I remembered the old idiom “He who controls your emotions controls you.”

how-to-say-no3)    Just say NO!! I especially had to learn this with my family.  I have spent years being the problem solver and/or the rescuer.  I admit that my codependent personality put me in this situation, but I was determined to take a stand. I love my family, but I had to start saying no and stop answering my phone so much. My family is on notice that if it isn’t an emergency, meaning someone is “admitted” into the hospital (not just an ER run) or dead, do not call me. They are slowly getting it.

So 2014 is history and I have a blank slate with 365 pages in which to create brand new opportunities for 2015.  I plan on making the most of every space on every page.


What did you learn in 2014 and how are you going to make 2015 your year?


  1. Beth

    January 5, 2015 at 2:08 pm

    Nice post! I adopted that Facebook attitude a while back and it has been so perfect. Here’s to 2015!

    • Pam Williams

      February 15, 2015 at 12:19 am

      Thanks Beth! Cheers to you and the new year!

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