Fat Shaming is for Cowards!

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Social media has become a place where internet gangsters can post up and insult people at whim. How anyone can think that humiliation is helpful to another baffles me.  You can call it “tough love,” but fat shaming is mean and a bullying tactic. It only sets people up for the possibilities of developing unhealthy habits as well as mental health issues such as depression and eating disorders.  Yes, I know the statistics on obesity in America and yes I know that to some “bullying” is an overused word, but if you think that embarrassing a person will result in sending them to the gym, think again.

I normally don’t even think about things like this, but after commenting on a post on Facebook, I had to do a blog post about it? 

ErvinJohnsonEJThe Facebook post was about Magic Johnson’s son E.J. and his “look.”  The original post took on a life all its own.  The picture with its share of jabs regarding of E.J.’s sexual orientation, was steeped in comments vilifying “fat” women, and “fat black” women at that.

After giving my two cents on the shared post, I sat back and watched a poster defend her negative comments as women being “sensitive.”  She even went as far as to saythere is no such thing as fat shaming if you’re fat.  A lie!!

Snatched straight from the Urban Dictionary, here is an unofficial definition of fat shaming

“A bullying tactic, singling out, or making fun of a fat person, under the guise of helping them realize they need to lose 50 pounds pronto or they’re going to become ill, die prematurely, or be a major burden on the health system, when in actual fact it’s an individual’s bias against people they consider to be unattractive in their immediate social or professional circle.”

This blog post is not about me or any victim of fat shaming, but more so about the perpetrators of this negative behavior.

There are some people that think that they can say anything they want, mostly choosing to do so via social media, and it be okay.  The mentality is if you are undisciplined (i.e. fat) you deserve a tongue lashing even if it is in a cowardly way.  After sitting and reading the aforementioned poster’s comment after comment justifying as to why she was right and all fat people are wrong, I had to log off of Facebook.

Amazingly, while this person I speak of is probably some average “Jane Blow” off the street, this kind of bashing comes from people of every background.


Remember when singer, turned actor, Tyrese Gibson posted the following on Twitter:

“If you are fat and nasty and you don’t like the way you look, do something about it. It’s simple. When you take a shower and you put your fat, nasty body in the shower and by the time you get out, the mirrors are all steamed up so you don’t look at what you did to yourself. That may sound offensive or insensitive but ultimately, you are big as hell because you have earned that shit. You worked your ass off to eat everything in sight to get big as hell.”

Google it; I can’t make this stuff up if I tried. He later apologized for his bad choice of wording, but dang Tyrese, really? 

The fact that he took that road to press someone to lose weight is amazing to me.  I was with him on the “if you don’t like how you look, change it,” but then he had to start bashing and I wondered how he thought any of what he said was helpful.

Or maybe you heard about this tweet from Geoffrey F. Miller, visiting professor at New York University.

FAT-SHAMING-PROFESSOR-facebookDr. Miller deleted the tweet and changed his Twitter feed to private, but his attitude toward his obese students is lingers on.

I won’t even into get the most recent incident where comedian/actor Jay Mohr insulted actress Alyssa Milano, (Who’s the Boss, Charmed, & Mistresses) who is gorgeous by the way.

I see no other gain from such hate speech other than to crush someone’s spirit. 

What you won’t get from me is an argument to explain or make an excuse as to how and why I look the way I do.  I have a few friends on social media that I have met in person that are fitness experts and Wellness coaches.  Never has there been a time in our interactions and conversations that they felt the need to ridicule me or show “tough love.”

At the end of the day, I don’t care how rooted in truth your advice, comment, or joke is, if it is hurtful and mean spirited, it is bullying period. The old cliché goes, you can draw more flies with honey than you can with vinegar.  Try it.

I end with a video of the response from Jennifer Livingston, news anchor for Wisconsin CBS – WKBT who was fat shamed by a viewer on the news station’s Facebook page. She said it better than I ever could.




[Huffington Post – Geoffrey Miller] [Daily Mail] [Huffington Post – Jennifer Livingston]


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